To Kai on Your 4th Birthday

I’ve gone back and forth on if I should post this — I worry alot that it will seem that I am trying to get attention or sympathy through these posts and I don’t want that to be the message. I often question why I post, and truthfully it’s because I hope somehow, some way it helps – helps someone else not feel alone in similar emotions, helps other maybe understand more about a situation that maybe someone else in their life has encountered, and also offer hope and a reminder that we’re all in this together and we all each have our story. So I pray that those intentions are what come across.

Today, June 27, 2014 would have been Kai’s 4th birthday. We have missed him so much today but have much to celebrate in this day.

Dear Kai Kai,

I can’t believe it’s been 4 years since you were born. You were so tiny and I couldn’t believe God had actually entrusted me, the non-maternal instinct girl, with the precious gift and great responsibility of you. I wish I could give you such a big hug today to wish you a happy birthday and take you to the park and run, jump, and play with you and Maya. I can only imagine how adventurous you would be and then your baby sister would be trying her darndest to keep up with you. I often try to imagine how the two of you would be together – in my head it’s the best mix of the two of you keeping each other on your toes, annoying each other like only siblings can, and then fiercely protecting each other no matter what.

Kai Kai – I miss you so much and I’m so so sorry that I do not know how to celebrate this day with you not here. This day should be celebrated – it was the start of your life here, the day you changed everything. And I am so thankful for that day. I am joyous of that day. It’s just that you should be here so we can celebrate together. I want to see how you’ve grown up and not just imagine it. I want to talk to you, hear what you think, see what you find funny, and learn more about who you are.

It’s weird Kai, sometimes when we’re doing something, usually it’s outside and the sun is so bright, I just “see” you – and it’s like I see you as you would be now and I’m not even trying to imagine it. You’re just there. Little skinny legs, a less pronounced Buddha belly, running so fast. You’re always leading the way and I don’t see your face. Kai Kai – I wish we could be allowed to just have you for a second just to give you a hug on this day – I know it wouldn’t be enough for me, but oh just a second. One second more. But I know you’re ok. You’re better than ok. Maybe it’s just that we’re not ok without you when the distance between heaven and earth must separate us.

Kai, I celebrate your life, your amazing life that you lived in your short time with us. I wish I could have loved you better, not been such a broken human, but please know how much I love you. I don’t know why it matters that I want you to know this because the love you now know from God is all you need. Maybe I just want to tell you that I lovIMG_3317e you so much because it’s what will always connect us, it’s what does connect us and your dad and I will always keep loving you in our imperfect ways.

Happy, happy birthday sweet Kai. Four years – you’ve been part of our hearts for four years and you know what, that’s what we have to celebrate today – no one can take that away. We love you Kai Kai, today and forever.

6 Comments on To Kai on Your 4th Birthday

  1. Susan Neibel
    June 28, 2015 at 8:49 am (2 years ago)

    You have loved him well and he knows it.

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  2. Robin
    June 28, 2015 at 2:22 pm (2 years ago)

    Happy birthday Kai!

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  3. Lynn Anderson
    June 29, 2015 at 1:19 pm (2 years ago)

    You are so right. Kai is fine. Those of us left behind are the ones who struggle as we miss them so much. God has His arms wrapped around you each day, but especially when you are missing Kai. Take time to feel them and let them comfort you. He is always there for us when we need it.

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  4. Ross prochnow
    July 20, 2015 at 5:35 am (2 years ago)

    beautiful words and beautiful thoughts. I often wonder why.. why does God want some of us to remain on earth while He calls some home earlier. I know for those who remain here, the contrast between heaven and earth will be so much greater when we finally make it home. I look forward to the time i will get to see my mom again, i look forward to the time i will see my friends who have gone on before me. I look forward to seeing little Kai again. Life is a struggle for those God calls to stay on earth a little longer. Thank you for your posts Mrs. Slockers, they do encourage me. They remind me of how sweet Kai is. They allow me to reflect on how fleeting life is and that we have a Hope to look forward to. We are pilgrims here on earth, travellers… our true citizenship is in heaven with our Lord Jesus Christ. Kai won the race and beat us there ..I look forward to that day we can all be together again, when our Lord makes it all right again.

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